Permissiveness Produces Bad Behavior #1

November 11, 2018

Permissiveness Produces Bad Behavior # 1

Permissive parenting styles produce bad behaviors in children, a great many who grow-up to be emotionally troubled adults. The effects of Permissive parenting methods, and others, have been well-researched by psychologists and the following is a summary of findings that have held-up under continued evaluation for decades.

The Authoritative Parenting Style tends to produce the best outcomes in children.

“Authoritative parents have high expectations for achievement and maturity, but they are also warm and responsive. These parents set rules and enforce boundaries by having open discussions and using reasoning. They are affectionate and supportive and encourage independence. This parenting style is also known as Democratic Parenting Style.”

I will add that authoritative parents may incorporate moderate forms of punishment if their more cognitive, informative, logical age-appropriate reasoning and praise fails to correct important problem behaviors. When punishment is needed, these parents are more likely to use timeouts and loss of privileges as consequences for non-compliance to basic rules. It should be noted that the technical term “punishment”, means that a consequence for a particular behavior reduces its future frequency of occurrence. The term does not exclusively refer to using physical pain, i.e., spankings, hitting or “whoopings”, to control behavior. Authoritative parents do their best to avoid these methods and if they fail, they are likely to seek professional assistance with the problems. 

Children raised by authoritative parents tend:

  • Appear happy and content.
  • Are more independent.
  • Achieve higher academic success.
  • Develop good self-esteem.
  • Interact with peers using competent social skills.
  • Have better mental health — less depression, anxiety, suicide attempts, delinquency, alcohol and drug use.
  • Exhibit less violent tendencies.

The Authoritarian Parenting Style tends to do poorly.

“Although authoritarian and authoritative parenting styles have similar names, they have several important differences in parenting beliefs. While both parental styles demand high standards, authoritarian parents demand blind obedience using reasons such as “because I said so“. These parents use stern discipline and often employ punishment to control children’s behavior. Authoritarian parents are unresponsive to their children’s needs and are generally not nurturing.”

Parents raised by authoritarian parents tend to:

  • Appear insecure.
  • Possess lower self-esteem.
  • Exhibit more behavioral problems.
  • Perform worse academically.
  • Have poorer social skills.
  • Are more prone to mental issues.

I will add that authoritarian parents tend to use more corporal punishment (spanking, slapping, hitting, and so called “whoopings”) and/or harsh and insulting reprimands. Their discipline methods are often judged to be abusive in nature and merit a report to child protective services. To the list below, I will add that children so raised are often aggressive/abusive to others; they frequently raise their own children using the same authoritarian style they were raised with.

The Permissive Parenting Styles also tend to do poorly.

“Permissive indulgent parents set very few rules and boundaries and they are reluctant to enforce rules. These parents are warm and indulgent but they do not like to say no or disappoint their children.”

Children of permissive parenting:

  • Cannot follow rules.
  • Have worse self-control.
  • Possess egocentric tendencies.
  • Encounter more problems in relationships and social interactions.

During my 40 years of private practice, I have found that many permissive indulgent parents have been raised that way. I have also observed that many have been raised by abusive authoritarian people and they appear to be over-compensating for that painful experience by being permissive indulgent parents. Psychologists sometimes call this common tendency, an “undoing” or a reaction-formation defense mechanism. 

The Permissive Neglectful Parenting Style tends to do even more poorly than the permissive indulgent style.

“Neglectful parents do not set firm boundaries or high standards. They are indifferent to their children’s needs and uninvolved in their lives. These uninvolved parents tend to have mental issues themselves such as maternal depression, physical abuse or child neglect when they were kids.”

Children of neglectful parents:

  • Are more impulsive.
  • Cannot self-regulate emotion.
  • Encounter more delinquency and addictions problems.
  • Have more mental issues — e.g. suicidal behavior in adolescents.

Please note that the descriptions of parenting styles, within quotation marks, are taken directly from the following short excellent article. The bulleted behavioral descriptions of children raised under each parenting style are also direct quotes from this article.

Also, please understand that I have emphasized the words “tend to” when describing parenting style outcomes for developing children. I did this to accommodate the fact that there are other variables that also contribute a particular child’s development including genetics, diseases and many other broader environmental influences. There will be exceptions to the outcomes described above.

I hope you will take time to read the following short parenting article. It has valuable additional information for you to consider. A firm understanding of this research area will benefit those who are parents, grandparents, or who in other ways are in contact with children.

https://www.parentingforbrain.com/4-baumrind-parenting-styles/

Finally, children grow to be adult citizens who tend to perpetuate their parent’s parenting styles with their own children. They also interact with other citizens of all ages in ways that benefit or damage them.

Therefore, I will assert that this parenting style research literature has many critically important implications for America’s evolving sociocultural health and viability.

These implications will be discussed in my next blog on this topic.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 11/11/18

Health Services Provider in Psychology

Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Indiana University South Bend

 

 

 

 

 

 

Freedom’s On the Line: Vote Republican!

November 6, 2018

Freedom’s On the Line: Vote Republican!

Do not sit back, your vote is essential. The radical socialists are making headway and are poised to move America beyond the point of no return.

VTM, 11/5/18

American Truth in Cartoons

November 4, 2018

American Truth in Cartoons

America, this is no laughing matter!

Send these depictions of an ominous truth to all of your friends and Vote Conservative Republican!

VTM, 11/4/18

Gary Varvel · Oct. 27, 2018

Another American Massacre!

November 1, 2018

Another American Massacre!

So very sad…beyond words.

VTM, 10/31/18

Power Corrupts Dem. Leaders!

October 29, 2018

Power Corrupts Dem. Leaders!

The democratic party will not fix our mass immigration invasions simply because, if they do, they will loose political power.

I know that many loyal democrat voters will not believe me. But my beloved Mother always taught me to “tell the truth”.

So here is the truth, as best I can know it at this time.

Yes, conservatives will like this video. But, traditional patriotic democratic voters will also wish to see this video. I respectfully ask everyone to please view this short video and see what you think about it.

Wake-Up America you are in grave danger.

Please send this video to everyone you know.

https://www.prageru.com/videos/illegal-immigration-its-about-power

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 10/29/18

 

 

Why Capitalism ?! #3

October 28, 2018

Why Capitalism ?! #3

Come-on Mom’s, Dad’s, Grandparents, Aunts and Uncles; teach your children about the advantages of Capitalism!

You need to fight the fact that our generally leftist public educational system is not doing so. It is therefore failing to acculturate our children to the positive aspects of our society and culture; the greatest the world has ever seen.

Start early with your young loved ones. Provide them with honest standards of comparison with which to fight the Leftist-socialistic propaganda they will receive in their education and the pervasive popular media.

Discuss the well documented dismal, even horrific, record of socialism and radical liberalism vs. the proven stunning advantages of capitalism and conservatism with your young adult loved ones.

Whether they know it or not, they (and all of us) will soon be voting to save or destroy America.

Please see the following short Prager U. video to refresh your own thoughts on this matter. Then send it to everyone you know!

https://www.prageru.com/videos/myths-lies-and-capitalism

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 10/28/18

Why Capitalism ?! #2

October 27, 2018

Why Capitalism ?! #2

Even those who advocate socialism love capitalism. They are simply to addled to understand that they love the fruits of capitalism and will hate it when socialism becomes a way of life in America.

View the following and see what you think!

I ask you to please send this video to everyone you know.

https://www.prageru.com/videos/why-you-love-capitalism

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 10/27/18

P.S., Go to my search box and type in socialism for more about its disasters. Then tap Enter.

Great Britain Accepting Sharia Law!

October 27, 2018

Great Britain Accepting Sharia Law!

Yes, who would have thought it would ever occur in the Mother-Land of America.

I know people who are vehement that the growing Muslim population in America could never implement Sharia Law here. They are wrong and I will set-about demonstrating this progression after the mid-term elections.

For now, please see what is happening within the cradle of Western Civilization.

https://www.jihadwatch.org/2018/10/uk-legitimizing-terrible-abuse-nearly-2000-child-brides-in-five-years

Also, please send this to everyone you know.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 10/27/18

P.S., Look up past blogs on Islam, Sharia, and Jihad in my search box. Fill in the box and tap enter.

Why Not Capitalism?! #1

October 25, 2018

Why Capitalism?! #1

America’s youth know little about capitalism. The same is true about many of America’s adults!

The series to follow comes to you thanks to PragerU. It is my duty and pleasure to bring you some critically important information using the educational blessings of PragerU.

The majority of our youth (51% by some estimates) believe that socialism is superior to capitalism. 

It would appear that, unless America does its homework on this issue, we and our children will be headed for very hard times in the not-to-distant future.

I hope you have seen my presentation of a series of short videos produced by PragerU. I entitled this series: Why Not Socialism?! 1-3. Please visit http://www.culturalsurvivalskills.me to see them if you have not already done so.

I also hope you will view the following short video and then send it to everyone you know.

Wake-Up America!

https://www.prageru.com/videos/if-you-hate-poverty-you-should-love-capitalism

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 10/25/18

Why Not Socialism?! #3

October 22, 2018

Why Not Socialism?! #3

You will note that the man in today’s video, sponsored through Prager University, does not use the word socialism. He is speaking of “the left” and it’s historical movement called “progressivism”. You should know that the left, progressivism, and socialism are all synonyms for the goals and actions of America’s modern democratic party!

Don’t be fooled. So-called progressivism is just another name for socialism. Calling their goals and actions “progressivism” is simply the democratic parties’ way of making sweet-sounding incremental steps toward socialism; which is a big step towards communism. 

The modern democratic party has moved all-the-way to the radical-left and many Americans are oblivious to this fact and its bleak delayed consequences. A large segment of America’s population has not been educated about the horrors of socialism and communism.

The democratic party, and its deep-state operatives, are in the process of transforming America to a repressive, anti-Constitutional, socialist state; just as former President Obama promised it would.  

Wake-Up America!

See the following short video and send it to everyone you know.

https://www.prageru.com/playlists/most-popular#4

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 10/22/18


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