Posts Tagged ‘denial’

Reality Therapy with Dr. Tom: Bad Cops

April 16, 2018

Reality Therapy with Dr. Tom: Bad Cops.

America! It’s time for a little more of Dr. Tom’s reality therapy. 

These special blogs are designed for those who are still living in a fantasy world.

Look-out, you could be one of them and not even know it!

The mass of wonderful (but fantasy-world) citizens consists of a great many of those patriots who were raised in traditional, religious or semi-religious, conservative or moderately conservative families. In some cases it will even include patriotic citizens, from various backgrounds, who consider themselves to be “traditional” or “classical” liberals.

Here is your wake-up call! It is way past-time to perceive the cultural ravages of hyper-liberalism in America and elsewhere in the world. Therefore, it is now my sad duty to rub your noses in the delayed consequences of your slumber in fantasy land. 

I promise that I do this out of pure love and kind thoughts for you, your loved ones and the future of America.

You may, understandably, get upset with me for exposing you to the truth. If you do you will be illustrating some perfectly human fundamental psychological errors: They are the denial of a threatening reality and displaced aggression. These are common defenses against anxiety, worry, fear and anger that we all must learn to  manage effectively.

Wake-Up America! Be rational: Put your anxiety, worry, fear, and anger where it belongs.

Focus these defensive emotions upon the hyper-liberal, anti-American political philosophy (progressivism/socialism) and its political practitioners: Vote the purveyors of America’s demise out of office and do not let them back in.

Here is a message about a reality, soon to become your personal nightmare if America’s police officers continue to be vilified by political forces bent on the destruction of our lawful  society.

https://www.prageru.com/videos/cops-are-good-guys

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 4/16/18

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Reality Therapy with Dr. Tom: University Sex Week!

April 14, 2018

Reality Therapy with Dr. Tom: University Sex Week!

America! It’s time for a little more of Dr. Tom’s reality therapy. 

These special blogs are designed for those who are still living in a fantasy world.

Look-out, you could be one of them and not even know it!

The mass of wonderful (but fantasy-world) citizens consists of a great many of those patriots who were raised in traditional, religious or semi-religious, conservative or moderately conservative families. In some cases it will even include patriotic citizens, from various backgrounds, who consider themselves to be “traditional” or “classical” liberals.

Here is your wake-up call! It is way past-time to perceive the cultural ravages of hyper-liberalism in America and elsewhere in the world. Therefore, it is now my sad duty to rub your noses in the delayed consequences of your slumber in fantasy land. 

I promise that I do this out of pure love and kind thoughts for you, your loved ones and the future of America.

You may, understandably, get upset with me for exposing you to the truth. If you do you will be illustrating some perfectly human fundamental psychological errors: They are the denial of a threatening reality and displaced aggression. These are common defenses against anxiety, worry, fear and anger that we all must learn to  manage effectively.

Wake-Up America! Be rational: Put your anxiety, worry, fear, and anger where it belongs.

Focus these defensive emotions upon the hyper-liberal, anti-American political philosophy (progressivism/socialism) and its political practitioners: Vote the purveyors of America’s demise out of office and do not let them back in.

Here is a small sample of a much greater reality, soon to become your personal nightmare.

https://www.thecollegefix.com/post/43707/

https://www.thecollegefix.com/post/38732/

V. Thomas Mawhinney Ph.D., 4/14/18

P.S. The articles displayed above were found on a mainstream news outlet.

 

 

 

“The Brit” On Trump and Muslim Immigration

March 24, 2016

“The Brit” On Trump and Muslim Immigration

Look-out for “The Brit”! He will rub our noses in reality and it is not a pretty picture.

I love the old saying: “The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable!”

The Brit also hits very close to another interestingly related topic: One of  Sigmund Freud’s well-known “Ego Defense Mechanisms” is what he called DENIAL.

Freud realized that his patients often refused to recognize bad and threatening things that happened, or were likely to happen to them. Freud concluded that perceptions and thoughts of such things were consigned to the patient’s unconscious in order to protect them from stress and anxiety.  He assumed that individuals had an automatic, unconscious ability, to do this and he called it Repression. He also noted that some of his patients had been aware of various pains or threats in their lives and they appeared to purposefully not think about. He called this “purposeful forgetting”  about such threats to their emotional comfort, “Suppression”. 

Freud used the word “Neurotic” (a word now seldom used) to  describe his patients who were emotionally troubled and behaving maladaptively ways because they defended against anxiety by simply denying and refusing to deal with reality. The result of the overuse of denial to cope with stressful events meant that his patients were suffering from never-ending emotional problems and behaviors that harmed their health and destroyed relationships with others.

I believe that Freud’s defense mechanism of denial is very real and that it not only can be seen in individuals, but it is easily observed in whole societies of people.

The actual causes of such self-defeating behavior patterns can be very complex; involving biogenetic predispositions, modeling and imitation, social contingencies of punishment and reinforcement, religious and political ideology, economics and probably more.

Never-the-less, the denial of reality and the protection of ourselves from fear and anxiety undoubtedly plays into what is Europe’s and America’s astonishing failure to adequately address and cope with a very fearful reality. That reality is the savage, pitiless, bloody and horrifically murderous war against the world of innocent “infidels” perpetrated in the name of Islam.

Grow-Up America!

Deal with the real world and you might survive.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/iHLcrfhwPtc?&rel=0

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D., 3/24/16

P.S., Thanks to Lee Hornack for sending this timely video to  me.

What Islam Is The Religion of Peace?!

November 3, 2011

What Islam Is The Religion of Peace?!

If you doubt the authenticity of the pictures that follow, simply go to the snopes URL below

We Americans had better know what we are up against. Denial is one of the most damaging defense mechanisms that humans can use to protect their peace of mind…even while risking death itself!

VTM,  11/3/11

http://www.snopes.com/photos/politics/muslimprotest.asp

 

To see the picures, which I am unable to post, please click on the Snopes URL above. Stand by for a stiff dose of reality!

These pictures are of Muslims marching through the STREETS OF LONDON in 2006.

Thanks to Joe Grunert for sending this to me.

Grim Prognosis

October 17, 2009

Grim Prognosis

While on an idyllic cruise through the Caribbean, I read an alarming book. The 2002 book was entitled: The Death of the West: How Dying Populations and Immigrant Invasions Imperil Our Country and Civilization. This book was written by Patrick J. Buchanan.  Many do not like Buchanan’s politics and some even ridicule him.

In my view, with regard to the Death of the West, he is telling the truth as we can best know it, and that truth is a fearsome thing to contemplate. 

The following are some quotes from Buchanan’s book:

As a growing population has long been a mark of healthy nations and rising civilizations, falling populations have been a sign of nations and civilizations in decline. If that holds true, Western Civilization, power and wealth aside, is in critical condition. For like the Cheshire Cat, the people of the West have begun to fade away (p11).

The prognosis is grim. Between 2000 and 2050, world population will grow by more than three billion to over nine billion people, but this 50 percent increase in global population will come entirely in Asia, Africa, and Latin America, as one hundred million people of European stock vanish from earth.

In 1960, people of European ancestry were one-fourth of the world’s population; in 2000 they were one-sixth; in 2050, they will be one-tenth. These are the statistics of a vanishing race. A growing awareness of what they portend has induced a sense of foreboding and even panic, in Europe (p.12).

End of Quotes.

As a psychologist, I can only warn you that one of the premier ways that humans defend themselves from frightening realities is by simple denial. This is a common way that people destroy all hope of effectively coping with their problems. By mentally transforming that which truly threatens them into that which does not,  they also frequently destroy themselves.

Buchanan has warned us of some of the mechanisms of America’s present state of decline.  To deny this reality is to seal our sad fate. Facing and coping with this reality is our only hope for continued, and improved, sociocultural  life as we have known it. 

VTM, 10/17/09

Why Dumb Behavior From Smart People?!

August 20, 2009

Dumb behavior from Smart People

Sigmund Freud was the first to identify what he called, “neurosis”. The behavior patterns that he described as “neurotic” were thought to be motivated by the escape or avoidance of fears and anxieties–perhaps even terror–of accurate perceptions of one’s own self and the stressful events encountered in life. The idea was that some people engage in self-defeating escape or avoidance actions because such actions quickly reduced fear and anxiety. Of course, the big problem is that these unfortunate people only momentarily relieved their upset at the expense of ever solving the problems that threatened to harm or destroy them.

I like Albert Ellis’  more pithy modern definition of neurosis: According to him, neurosis is “dumb behavior from smart people”. I do not wish to ridicule or insult anyone. We all have done, and will continue to do, dumb things from time to time. The challenge for all of us is to learn to behave more and more effectively as soon as we can. Effective people learn to behave in ways that achieve greater happiness and less pain in both the short run and in the long run.

Habitual dumb (self and other damaging) behavior patterns nearly always involve defending ones-self against fear and anxiety by using methods that distort reality, temporarily relive stress, and predictably lead to more problems and failure in the future. Freud identified a variety of damaging self-protective strategies as “Ego Defense Mechanisms”. The following are some examples:

Denial

In spite of very strong evidence of a problem, the individual forcefully argues that it does not exist and there is really nothing to worry about. A corollary of this is, ” I don’t have a problem! Someone else has a problem and that is causing me problems!”

Projection

I do not have a problem–you have the problem! It is always the other person or people who is/are creating the difficulty: they are always wrong, stupid, selfish, unkind, hostile, untrusting, and untrustworthy, etc.. “I or we are never the problem”.

Repression

Our fearful and anxiety evoking thoughts are automatically sent to our unconscious mind and we don’t think or worry about them any more. A common example is that we have all, without knowingly making a conscious choice, just “though of lots of other things”. If we make a consious choice to think about other less upsetting or threatening things Freud called this strategy Suppression.

Displaced aggression

Frequently, when people are stressed, upset or hurt, they more easily become angry at innocent victims who are “handy”, easy to victimize and harmless to us. Most of us will admit to being unjustly unkind, irritable or harsh to someone who is close to us simply because we have had a bad day. The less of this displacement of frustration and anger we do to others , the better. Like all defense mechanisms, this one not only fails to solve the original problem, it creates even more problems.

Obsessive-compulsive behavior

People can keep themselves occupied by thinking nonstop about safe, but irrelevant ideas. They can also avoid upset by doing safe but irrelevant things ,over and over again, to avoid confronting the real fears and anxieties that should be dealt with effectively. Such individuals are ineffectual at managing their personal problems because they spend all of their time and energy dusting, cleaning, arranging, and planning, etc. They may also frenetically engage in various forms of entertainment (sports, gambling, or sexual activities, etc.). The bigger their personal problems are, the more intensely they engage in irrelevant behavior and the more incompetent they become.

Sigmund Freud’s daughter, Anna, devoted much of her career to studying these “Ego Defense Mechanisms”. There are several other self-destructive defense mechanisms that people use to avoid fear and anxiety and I will discuss these as they become relevant to our discussions later on.

In the final analysis, we all do some these kinds of things from time to time. But it is important that we try to be aware when we are acting in these ways, work to be honest with ourselves and others, and make the necessary self-corrections wherever we can. If we use the preceding ego defense mechanisms to excess, they are powerful impediments to effective problem solving and they normally generate even more complex problems of their own.

Individuals who over-use these incompetent coping methods generally live miserable and ineffective lives. The same is true for sociocultures, whose leaders and people have fallen prey to such psychological defense mechanisms throughout history. Perhaps the old saying about, and image of, “Nero at the fiddle as Rome burned” (actually Nero did not fiddle) can serve as a general warning to us individually and collectively.

We must identify our problems clearly and then have the courage to attack them intelligently.

VTM


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